You Deserve To Feel Good, Don't You?
Say you want to join in fabulous a spa day with the girls…. Or meet up with a friend for a coffee (and maybe a slice of cake or brownie because they just look soooooo gooooood!!!!)... Or maybe you want to purchase that gorgeous handbag you fell in love with the moment you laid eyes on it!! Basically, you have four options, don't you?
You can either do it and enjoy it. Do it and feel guilty for doing it. Don't do it and feel crummy because you suddenly feel very resentful of yourself and the universe for never letting you have any fun. Or, don't do it and feel good about not doing it. (I personally take issue with this last one because I have trouble believing it.)
But then again, I suppose it all comes back to our guilty consciences telling us not to do something because we shouldn't. That money and time could be better spent elsewhere, you know! Of course, you know what I say to that? It's tough to capture in writing but just imagine my tongue sticking out blowing raspberries. That's poppycock! Total rubbish! Absolute nonsense!
Ok so maybe you shouldn't go mad and live only for yourself without a care in the world for what (or who) that money could go toward... or spend so much time living for yourself that you ignore basic responsibilities, like the people or businesses you owe time to. That would be bad. Admittedly.
HOWEVER - to take time even once a week (at the very least) for yourself is actually really important! It's good for both your mental health and your physical health. Taking time to connect with friends, pamper yourself or treat yourself - they all have the same effect. You will feel happier. If you never take time for yourself, to be good and kind to yourself, eventually you'll find yourself in a fairly miserable state. You'll start to blame other people or other things getting in the way of your happiness but actually - it'll have been you all along - hindering the possibilities of what happiness might have been.
And really - if you are someone who gives into the guilt more often than not - why don't you decide what warrants 'splurging'? Then you'll have made the determination that that one specific thing is worth it. Maybe it's a special milestone birthday or an anniversary? Or maybe it's your wedding!?! (Most people determine they're worth splurging a bit on!) Or how about an amazing family holiday? Whatever it is, don't hold back. Go all out! You'll have saved enough money and time avoiding other fun things you would have enjoyed… why not allow yourself to take this opportunity and make it the best thing possible! It'll feel like the best money and time you've ever spent! It'll have been for you and likely your loved one(s) and all of these suggestions will provide you with a lifetime of fond memories that you can relive - enjoying the day you let yourself splurge over and over again!
Now, I still maintain that everyone should allow themselves to enjoy whatever life has to offer, whenever they can. Everyone deserves to be happy, to spend their time and money however they please, to go wherever their dreams may take them...It's just a shame really, when things like guilt hold us back from living. To my mind - if you work hard, you deserve a break. If you earn a good living, you deserve to determine how to spend it. Generally speaking, when we determine that we need something - we get it. But when we determine that we want something, we take issue with this because we question its need. Sometimes, we need to treat ourselves to things we want. Will that bit of brownie be the end of the world as you know it? Probably not. Will you savour every warm sweet chocolatey mouthful? Damn straight!
Sooooo… go on. Give yourself permission at least once in awhile just to enjoy whatever life brings your way. And if you prefer the strategy of deciding on just one thing... every week? Month? Or maybe one thing every year or every five years? Do it and hold true to it. But don't hold back. Go all out and enjoy every second of the experience. You'll have waited long enough for it!